Ideas to capture childhood, stage by stage
Games, photos, letters and outings for every age, from the first day to the first years. Each idea says what is worth keeping and how.
The first months
3 months to 1 year
Around 1 year
Around 2 years
From 3 years
At any age
Special dates
The first months
Everyday life
Film the ordinary
The bath, the feed, the walk home. Nobody films the ordinary because it feels like it will last forever, and the ordinary is what vanishes without warning.
Letter idea
Write down what nobody will remember
The smell of her head, the sound she makes while feeding, the way she grips your finger. These are the first things to go. One sentence is enough.
Photo idea
The photo of the hands
Your hand next to hers, in the same photo. It is the image that most astonishes years later, because that scale never comes back.
Letter idea
One line per hard night
It sounds like the last thing you want to do at three in the morning. But this is the stage that vanishes from memory fastest, and the one most worth having written down.
Photo idea
Face up close, window light
A newborn sees best at about thirty centimetres, roughly the distance of your arms. Stay at that distance, no flash, with window light coming from the side.
Everyday life
Record your voice, not hers
Singing, reading out loud, talking about the day. Thirty years from now she will want to hear herself, but the voice she will most want to hear is yours.
Play
Strong contrast is entertaining
In the first weeks high contrast draws more attention than colour. A sheet of paper with black and white stripes, moved slowly, buys minutes of fascination and wonderful faces.
Play
A little time on her tummy
Awake and with company, a few minutes a day. She gets stronger, complains a bit and pulls some priceless faces. Keep your phone nearby.
Photo idea
The same photo, every month
Pick one fixed spot and repeat it every month. On their own they say little. Together, at the end of the year, they are the loveliest thing in the collection.
Routine and organisation
One song for each hour
The same song at bath time, another at bedtime. It becomes a signal of what comes next, it soothes, and twenty years from now that song hands the whole house back.3 months to 1 year
Play
The mirror
Sit with her facing a mirror and talk. The reaction changes from month to month, and filming the same scene every couple of months makes a beautiful sequence.
Outings and fresh air
The first trip
What to bring, how much travelling time she can take, and how not to come home without a single photo of the three of you.
Play
A box of textures
A fluffy offcut, paper that crumples, a wooden spoon, a dry sponge. Nothing small enough to fit whole in a mouth. More entertaining than an expensive toy.
Outings and fresh air
Where to go with a small child
Places that actually work, by age range, and what to bring so you do not have to head home early.
Routine and organisation
Getting ready for first foods
What to set aside at home and how to record it. When to start and what to offer is for your paediatrician to say.
Photo idea
The face new food makes
Avocado, mango, beetroot. The face at the first spoonful of each flavour makes a run of photos that ages very well.
Reading
A cloth book, chewed and all
At this stage a book is an object before it is a story: something to crumple, chew and turn inside out. Reading together now is about linking books to your lap.
Outings and fresh air
Water for the first time
The sea, a pool, a stream or a basin in the garden. The face when a foot touches cold water is a photo you only get to take once.
Play
Peekaboo
Hiding your face behind your hands and reappearing. The laugh that follows is short in life and forever on video.
Play
A tunnel of cushions
Sofa cushions, a cardboard box open at both ends, a sheet over two chairs. Burns energy, costs nothing.
Play
The cardboard box beats the toy
A big box becomes a car, a house and a hiding place, and entertains better than the toy that came inside it. That injustice is worth recording.Around 1 year
Routine and organisation
Settling in at nursery
What the first week usually looks like, what to agree with the school, and the record nobody keeps.
Letter idea
Write down the wrong words
The first words come out crooked, and the crooked version is the one the family keeps forever. Write them down before the correct pronunciation erases the joke.
Routine and organisation
When a sibling arrives
How to prepare, and what to record before the house changes shape for good.
Outings and fresh air
A different surface every weekend
Grass, sand, gravel, dry leaves. Walking on different surfaces is fun and practice at the same time, and the park down the road will do.
Play
She copies everything you do
Sweeping, talking on the phone, stirring a pot. Give her a small version of a real object and film it: this is where your family shows up in her.
Photo idea
Keep the first scribble
Photograph the drawing together with the hand that drew it. Paper yellows, goes missing, ends up as wrapping. The photo stays.Around 2 years
Play
A basin of water in the garden
A basin, two cups and a spoon. Twenty minutes of absolute concentration for practically nothing. Film from a distance, without interrupting.
Play
Washable paint and big paper
Brown paper on the floor, poster paint and the whole hand. The mess is the point. Keep the handprint with the date on it.
Getting ready
The first day of school
The photo at the door, the backpack bigger than she is, and the text that matters: how you felt leaving her there.
Everyday life
The yearly interview
Three questions, always the same ones, every birthday. Record the audio. In ten years you will have a priceless collection.From 3 years
Play
Cooking together, mess included
Stirring, pouring, squashing dough. The mess is the point, not a side effect. A cloth on the floor solves it and the memory stays.
Reading
Let her tell the story
Pick a familiar book and ask her to tell it to you, looking at the pictures. Her version is usually better than the original.
Letter idea
The why stage
Write down the questions you could not answer. It is the truest portrait of how she thought at this age, and it disappears within a few months.At any age
Letter idea
Letters to the future: what to write to your child
Five opening lines that solve the blank page.
Everyday life
Film the grandparents with her
Not the child on her own: the two of them together, talking. It is the record the family will most want to have, and the window does not stay open forever.
Photo idea
Document one whole ordinary day
Pick any Saturday and photograph it hour by hour, staging nothing. A day with nothing special about it is the one you will most want to see again.
Everyday life
The mark on the wall
A door frame, a pencil and the date. It is the most analogue record there is and the one that moves people most when the family moves house. Photograph it before you go.Special dates
Getting ready
The first Easter
Probably no chocolate yet. But the photo with the little ears and the Easter letter last far longer than the egg.
Getting ready
The first Mother's Day
The photo that almost never exists is the mother with the baby, because she is the one taking the photos. Ask someone. Today is the day.
Getting ready
The first Father's Day
A recording of her father speaking to her at eighteen is worth more than any present he could be given today.
Getting ready
The first Christmas
Presents, photos, and what to do with a baby who will remember none of it.
Getting ready
Ideas for the first birthday
Not long now. Where to hold it, what to serve, who to invite and, above all, what to record before the day flies past.
Getting ready
Putting together the first year retrospective
A recipe for turning the year's collection into a video or an album the whole family will want to see.
Getting ready